Finding Mr./Ms. Right! – Feb. 13, 2010

Valentines Day is here! On this weeks Valentine’s Day show we’re discussing how to find Mr. or Ms. Right.  We will discuss what makes a good relationship and how to avoid the pitfalls of a bad relationship. Plus, we reveal the secrets to a lasting marriage. So tune in February 13 for “Finding Mr./Ms. Right!”

Betrayal Part 1 – Family Issues

For the next few weeks we will be talking about Betrayal.

I. This weeks show will be broken into 2 segments:

A. Marital betrayal

B. Family Members betraying you

II. Marital Betrayal

A. A lot of people are dealing with an unfaithful spouse. Adultery is a form of betrayal.

B. A marriage is not the same as being in a dating relationship. It holds a lot higher responsibility to God. It’s a covenant that you made with that person.

C. If you know that a spouse is cheating, you should confront it.

1.If you are in a marriage then you should realize the importance of trust in your relationship.’

D. If your spouse is cheating on you, don’t make a quick decisions!

1. Don’t make rash decisions that will hurt you.

2. The most important factor is that you focus on doing the right thing by God and yourself.

E. The Bible speaks very specifically about adultry being a very serious offense, but if you’ve been betrayed try your best to not make rash decisions and use justice and mercy in your decision making.

F. If you’ve been betrayed, it leaves you feeling like you’re by yourself.  If you feel this way, don’t try to take on this situation by yourself. It’s OK to get help.

III. The Toxic Family Member

A. These are the members of your family that seem to completely fall away from you. That have nothing to do with you, and may have hard feelings against you.

B. This is betrayal.

C. You must build walls against that kind of betrayal.

D. Most commonly this kind of issue is brought about by family competition.

1. 2 siblings fighting for their parents attention.

2. A parent pushing one son or daughter over the other.

E. You have to build walls to keep the negative impact of these events out.

1. Don’t block the family member (i.e. ignor them, or push them away)

2. Build walls by defining your boundaries

IV. Summary

A. Adultery is a hard betrayal to overcome and a serious offense against the victim and God. But if you are the victim, don’t react on your feelings of anger and hurt.  Do things to ensure your emotional, mental and physical well being.  (Drink water and rest). Get around people who can lift you up, encourage you and even make you laugh.  Don’t hang around people who are going to bring you further down.  If you need to cry and get it out.

B. A toxic family member will be negative and betray you through withholding their emotions and love from you.  You must build walls to protect yourself from this by defining your personal boundaries.

Helping Haiti – Jan 16, 2010

1st quarter:

I. Today we will be talking about helping Haiti
II. The Red Cross has confirmed that roughly 50,000 people have died due to the earthquake that hit Port au Prince, Haiti.
III. We have to be human and realize the size and magnitude of this devastation. We need to help them.
IV. Many organizations have made it very easy to donate to help Haiti.
V. You may feel like they’ve received enough aid, but you have to realize the great amount of destruction. What we’ve raised is still not enough.
VI. Now, if you are going to donate to a charity, make sure that you are giving to a REAL charitable organization. DON’T get scammed!
VII. Here is a list of reputable organizations that are helping Haiti:
1. The Red Cross
2. The Christian Coalition’s Operation Blessing
3. World Vision
4. Google Crisis Response

If you have relatives in Haiti and need to contact them Google is giving free phone calls to Haiti: Click here for more info.

3rd quarter:

I. How can God allow this earth quake to happen?

II. Life is going to happen around us whether good or bad, but we can’t blame God for things that happen to us.

III. We just want to make people more aware that these people need help.

4th quarter:

I. God is giving us a chance to be accountable here on earth.

II. When all these bad things happen, know that God can fix it. But what we preceive as an end (death) God sees as a beginning.

III. We look to God for miracles, but sometimes that miracle is you!

IV. We can make things better by showing the love of God.

Saturday Dec 12, 2009 – Spiritual Burnout Pt. 2 – The Business Aspect

1st quarter:
I. Today we are talking about spiritual burnout from a business aspect.
a. A lot of people are struggling in their faith because of the economic recession.
b. God is still here even thought we are going through such a tough time.
II. God promises us an end result that is for our good.
III. How do we overcome this overwhelmingly bleak outlook?
Mike Bradock: I’d like to talk about Peter and an instance when he went fishing. Peter went out all night and was fishing and caught nothing. Jesus came to him and was talking to them about God and then told Peter to ‘launch out into the deep for a draw’.
Pastor Ballard: I’m sure a lot of people out there are wondering what these pastors on the radio are going to tell me about running a business. We’ll talk more after the break.

2nd quarter:
IV. Peter was a business man, so what could Jesus tell him about business?
MB: I’ve read hundreds of business books and most of them say “a wise man said” or “a king once said”…most of those wise sayings are derived frim Biblical principles.
JB: Can you continue with the story of Peter and Christ?
MB: Sure. When Peter had realized that the haul made from Christ’s instructions once bountiful he submitted himself to Jesus.
JB: Your blessing comes from being obedient to the word of God. It’s not about the money and gifts, but about paying attention to what God’s instructions are and being content within what God has given us.
MB: It’s true that the greatest joy comes from giving.

3rd quarter:
V. We’re continuing with our discussion on Spiritual burnout in business.
Pastor Love: I was listening to the comments and everything and I don’t see how believing in Jesus will help my business. I don’t want this to take away from fundamental business decisions you make, but faith can make a difference. I believe that God can make a difference in your business.
JB: Even in this economy there are still businesses thriving. They may or may not be Christian, but God is still working on their behalf.
Jody Stancil: I’d like to read a verse and relate it to this discussion: Ecclesiastes 5:12: “The sleep of a laborer is sweet, whether he eats little or much, but the abundance of a rich man permits him no sleep”.
MB: When you go through in a struggling business It’s important to have a higher power to rely upon. You have bills to pay and no money coming in. If I had to lose it all, how would I wake up the next morning and continue to live? We’re at a point where we don’t know if we’re going to make payroll or our bills. Once I got my eyes off of myself and my career I realized that no matter what I have air to breathe, and a sun shining on me. God gave me that.
MB: To reference Joseph in the Bible who would have thought that a slave would rise to be second in command over a country in the middle of a famine. God did that for Joseph and there are others out there going through financial bondage. You could be this generations Joseph.

4th quarter:
VI. JB: Mike you said something in the break about being a Christian and risk taker
MB: Dr. Peter McDaniel, one of the most wealthy men in Australia made a comment about Christian business owners: “We believe in a virgin birth, a crucifiction, a resurrection and the Bible in its inherent form. We talk about faith, read about faith, sing about faith, but we go out looking for and taking the job with the most security.”
We are to be lights in a dark place. God designed us to lead people out of dark places, like the recession. But we have to go through to get to a place where we can shine.
The objective of this down economy is not to destroy you, but to bring you closer to him.

Saturday Dec 5, 2009 – Spiritual Stalling and Burnout

1st quarter:
I. We’d like to welcome our guest this week: Michael Bradock.
II. Mike you related spiritual stallout to flying a plane. What is your experience with flying?
MB: Growing up I had the opportunity to spend a lot of time flying with a childhood friend of mind who’s father owned a private airstrip in Winnabow, NC.
JB: so could you go into some of the examples you gave me earlier?
MB: A lot of people look at God or Christ as their pilot or co-pilot. But I want to change their perspective for a minute. I’d like people to look at God as their air traffic controller. The plain is their life, storms and problems in the air the problems we face in life.

2nd quarter:
JB: No when we talked before you mentioned a very interesting thing about lift. Could you expand on that?
MB: Lift is the fruits of the spirit: peace, love, meekness, longsuffering, etc. The plain is like our life. We are born and then we die just like a plain trip. The air traffic controller (God) can see everything we can’t see around us and tells us to fly higher or lower and where to go.
Now there are two gauges you always look at while flying: your altimeter (which gives you your altitude), and your attitude (yes, it’s called attitude) which shows you the pitch of the nose of the plain.
JB: That’s seems more than ironic, that it would be called attitude.
MB: Yes, your attitude is very important when flying. If your nose gets too high you will stall. Likewise when we get too prideful and filled with selfrighteousness we will stall out in our relationship with God. On the other side if your nose or attitude gets too low you’ll run into the ground. Therefore if your attitude gets negative you’ll crash.
JB: So you mean you can have a full tank of gas and still stall out?
MB: Yes, the lift principle is not based off of your gas but you direction and attitude.

3rd quarter:
JB: Now how do you come out of a stall?
MB: Even though you have plenty of Word or fuel you have to realize it’s not a gas problem it’s a basic priciple problem.
MB: The way to come out of a stall is get your ATTITUDE right. It doesn’t matter if your rehearsing the Bible over and over, you need to go back to the fruit of the spirit and check your love and faith.
JB: How do I get my attitude up when all I see is the ground? Life’s really hard right now.
MB: Look at life from a different perspective. You have to believe that God is bigger than your problems.
If you’re telling God how big your bills our you should tell your bills how big your God is. It may be that God is pushing you out into a better opportunity and you are just feeling uncomfortable.
JB: There is no account where Jesus actually told a mountain to be removed into the see, but he told us we could do it. That means we can change out perspective through faith.
MB: whenever I find myself in that viewpoint, it doesn’t take it that long to realize that I don’t have it that bad. If you’re really worried about your problems go volunteer and before long you’ll see your problems aren’t that bad.
Pastor Love: There are so many things in the cockpit of a plain to help us fly correctly. If we don’t look at those meters we’re flying blind.
MB: Even when you’re flying on auto-pilot the computer makes adjustments based off of your sensors.
Dave: I think that a lot of people who are facing burn out are going through because they’re trying to go off of just faith and not looking at God’s grace. The more we grow in God’s kingdom the more we grow in what he designed us to be.
MB: Dave’s right and it really takes humility when your working on your Christian life.

4th quarter:
JB: talking about our christian attitude
Jody Stancil: Pastor Love said that we are flying blind if we don’t look at the sensors in the cockpit. You can still see out the window, but yet you’re still flying blind. Mike could you comment on that.
MB: Yes, I think that it relates to us checking ourselves on the inside and not just looking at what we see on the outsid. If you don’t check your sensors it may look like you’re flying ok but you still end up crashing.
JB: Let’s talk about the air traffic controller a bit. We’re the pilot, this is the life he has given us, but we can’t do it without him. God has this amazing ability to help everyone at one time.
MB: Right, ATC is able to help many different people at one time. Many times flying out of Atlanta you see plains all around. You can only see the plain in front or behind you but the ATC can see the plains all around you.
JB: Exactly, you can’t get upset about your situation because you can’t see all things around you.
MB: Also, the more qualified the pilot the bigger the plain you are able to fly. If you are walking in the basic fruit of the spirit, God is the one who promotes you not you.
JB: So, remember to be patient and watch your attitude and work on the fruit of the spirit.